Choice is a strange thing. Many people imagine that choice is easy. You just make up your mind and there you are- bob's your uncle. At least, they imagine that that's how it should be. Yet many many people go to great lengths not to have to choose. How many men have mistresses as well as wives simply because they can't pick one? If they choose this one, then they may be missing out on something better with that one...or that one may break my heart so I must have a spare...
So when someone says to you,' all you need to do, is choose to be happy', then we tend to dismiss it as too simple. Life is never that easy. And it isn't. A little effort is required. Not only to let go of all the baggage that is weighing you down and bringing you down, but also, making the decision every day, not to let it affect how you want to feel. An earthquake in Haiti? Bummer!! What can we take away from the experience that will make our lives better? Personally, I saw that materials things are truly meaningless. Here today and gone tomorrow. Its love that matters. As the late, great Michael Jackson said," Love lives forever".
So put your heart, and your soul into stuff that will last. Your job is stressing you? Do you know why? Can you fix it? Is it worth fixing? What about your relationship? A fellow cynical writer wrote an article about how chivalry isn't dead, men just choose who to be chivalrous to; and if the girl they're with isn't worth it, well then...no go. I thought that was rather sad. Why spend your days and nights with someone who isn't worth a bit of chivalry. It costs you nothing. Yet you value this woman so low, that she isn't even worth this courtesy from you. Like I asked him, "why would you want to be with someone who is not worth it?"
People are afraid of being alone, they're afraid of being jobless, they're afraid of rejection...Fear eats up your happiness. You cannot be fearful and happy. One of them has to go. Then you can stop looking forward to the day you will win the lottery to be happy. Because you won't. You'll be just as miserable as you are now; only with a lot of fake friends willing to help you wallow in it. Happiness comes from inside. It is a matter of choice. It is that simple, but in no way is it easy. You have to work at it, every day. Start now. Fear's already taken too much of your life away.
